“If you’re not proud of it, don’t serve it.
If you can’t do a good job, don’t take it on.
If it’s going to distract you from the work that truly matters, pass.
If you don’t know why they want you to do this, ask.
If you need to hide it from your mom, reconsider.
If it benefits you but not the people you care about, decline.
If you’re going along with the crowd, that’s not enough.
If it creates a habit that costs you in the long run, don’t start.
If it doesn’t move you forward, hesitate then walk away.
The short run always seems urgent, and a moment where compromise feels appropriate. But in the long run, it’s the good ‘no’s that we remember.
On the other hand, there’s an imperative to say “yes.” Say yes and build something that matters.” – On Saying “no” By Seth Godin
I read this post by Seth Godin on the internet the other day and it drew me to reflect on decision-making, and the heaviness we often sense to say yes.
Frequently we are confronted with demands that require a yes or no answer, a commitment from us. These demands come from all sort of places, work, family, friends and even people we don’t know, for example, a sales person trying to sell something to us. Time and again we feel pressure to answer right away, on the spot. Some requests are simple and obvious and don’t require considerable thought, still others will require deeper reflection.
Oftentimes we need to seek, to pray and to listen to the voice of God, every so often we need to stop and search for the right answer. We should not surrender to the pressure we feel from others and from ourselves.
The process of decision-making becomes straightforward when we set boundaries, specifically when experiencing doubts. Make a list of these boundaries, just like Seth Godin did, be true to your faith and to those around you, and exclude everything that goes against your beliefs or can damage the relationships you have.
Where is the danger zone for you? Maybe it is at work, where you are eager to be promoted and you are about to do whatever it takes to get there. Or maybe it’s at home, where you put your own interests above the interests of anyone else.
Take a moment and reflect, where is the danger zone for you? As soon as you figure it out, the easier will be for you to establish what is right or wrong. Don’t let one bad decision ruin your faith, marriage and even your finances.
God Bless You today and always!